Engraved on the wall of the children’s home Mother Theresa founded in Calcutta, India are The Paradoxical
Commandments. These verses were written by Dr. Kent M. Keith when he was just 19 years old, and they offer us guidance on how to be great with people, even when the people we are with aren’t being great themselves:
The Paradoxical Commandments
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
05 Oct 2016
If the calendar hadn’t clued me into what is looming around the corner, the sporadic snowflakes flying around yesterday in Bozeman would have! The fourth quarter of the year is upon us, and it is time to get focused on ending this year powerfully and gearing up for the new year; seize the day for the opportunities in front of you now and get your plan in order for 2017.
Start by looking at where you’ve been, what you’ve accomplished, and what you haven’t accomplished , and what you still want to accomplish in 2016. It is important while in this process, however, to not make excuses to put things off until the new year. But, "If it hasn’t gotten done by this point in the year, it isn’t going to. So, why bother, right???" Um, think again!
There are almost 3 months until January 1, and for every moment you put off doing what you said you were going to accomplish in 2016, you miss a moment of opportunity. You miss opportunities to grow personally and financially. You miss opportunities to learn what you don’t know. You miss the chance to teach and make a difference for others.
You miss out on the fun that awaits you, and one thing I’ve learned is to not waste a day, a moment, or even a breath. Our time here on this planet is a gift. Don’t waste it! Step out of your comfort zone and get moving.
For more in-depth information on seizing the opportunities before you in the final months of this year, check-out "Fine Tuning Your Focus for 4th Quarter" in my webinar series archive.
26 Sep 2016
Have you noticed that you often don’t have to understand the language someone is speaking in order to get what they are saying? For instance, you are in the stands watching a football game. There are people around you in every shape and size, young and old, English speaking and otherwise. There are fans cheering on their favorite players. There are grandparents cheering on their grandchildren. There are brothers and sisters cheering on their siblings. There are parents cheering on their children.
What is so cool about this is that no matter what language the cheering fans speak, it is clear what they are saying. All one has to do is look at the sparkle in their eyes, hear the sincerity in their voices, and really get the heartfelt way in which they are contributing to the team, and what this so poignantly illustrates is this: Who we are being when we communicate bridges more people than the language we use to communicate.
So, I ask you, what is your team getting when you communicate with them? What does your family see in your eyes when you walk in the door and greet them? What does the stranger in the grocery store learn about you when you are standing next to them in line? Who are you being? It is something for all of us to think about, including me!
Just a thought.
29 Jun 2016
Summer is a time to linger outside just a bit longer, enjoy frequent gatherings with friends, watch the kiddos in our lives play ball, road trip to our favorite vacation spots, and any other number of summertime favorites. Summertime is also a season of great distraction, and if we aren’t careful summertime can slow us down to a point where progress toward the goals we set in January is stymied.
Now, I’m not saying we shouldn’t be enjoying all that summertime brings, but in doing so, you do not have to give up your focus either! There are ways you can stay focused despite summertime distractions:
04 May 2016
Whether you are a teenager, parent, aunt, uncle, or grandparent, you likely participate in, or have at least heard of, some form of social media. From Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, and many, many others, the options for socialization through the lens of the virtual world are endless. On the surface, and when used wisely, social media is a good thing. It helps connect people in ways we never even thought possible 20 years ago. No more having to get a picture printed and sent off in the mail to Aunt Susie; just upload the picture to her Facebook timeline. No more spending hours on the phone calling your loved ones with big news; just post your news on Twitter or in your Snapchat story. All of these time savers keep us connected with our family and others from across the globe, people we might never have seen again or ever have met, if not for social media. So, it’s a good thing, right, or is it?